Confessions

	Okay, so the previous page said "admitted."  So what?
If you're trying to find out about yourself, sometimes it's good to talk to another person.  Someone who knows you almost better than you know yourself.  At the very least it should be someone you can trust to not use you to puff up their own ego.
	Sometimes it's easy to fool ourselves.  We're great at rationalizations.   "Yes I was angry but that was justified..." "So what if I kept the money when they gave me too much change at the store.  They can afford it." "No, that wasn't lust.  I just think she's a very attractive woman.  I wouldn't even think of stepping out on my wife."
Justified anger can give you just as many ulcers as unjustified.
	Even if it was a mistake, it's not your money to keep.
And if you wouldn't think about stepping out on your wife, why did you just think about it?
	When we can begin to trust another human to love us anyway...
		...we can become trustworthy ourselves.
If we really want to know who we are we need someone who will not rationalize our behaviors.
This is how we begin to develop honesty.
	Honesty is living in the truth.  "The truth shall set you free."  What is not truth is a lie. If you want to live in the truth you have to give up the lies.  And quit calling them something else.  Like fibs.  Or little white lies.
It's really hard to do.  But it does give us a little bit of humility.  Which is NOT the same as humiliation.
Humility is an honest appraisal of yourself.  Not over-inflated....and not under-inflated.
	You are not the worst thing that crawled on the face of the earth.  But you're not the best, either.  Get used to it.  You're normal.  And yes, you are unique. Just like the rest of us.
Once you have this "getting to know yourself" out of the way...You can start clearing the wreckage.You can prepare to heal wounds.You can learn to perform miracles.
	But miracles are based on truth......honesty instead of rationalism......love instead of apathy......compassion instead of complacency......self-less-ness instead of self-ish-ness......courage instead of fear......faith instead of doubt...
So what are you waiting for?  Get your list of Who You Are and tell someone.  But go easy on yourself.  Get a good friend who will keep this private between the two of you.
	You can find these people all over.	But you probably have someone in mind already.
There's a lot more to do, but you're well on your way now.  There are some other things you'll want to do after you're a little more settled in this way of living.   Make things right between yourself and others.  It's tougher than just saying you're sorry.  You'll want to actually repair any damage you may have done if possible.  If it doesn't cause any further harm. Continually review your actions and discover where you can improve. Spend time in prayer and meditation with that Higher Power of your own understanding.  Keep asking what actions you should take, and ask for the power to carry those actions out.  Get to know your own God.  Develop a relationship.  You don't need anyone else for this. If you're being honest, you'll begin to sense when that Power is present. As you gain small successes, share them with others.  Practice the principles you learn in everything you do. It may seem like you're not getting it, so take it easy on yourself.  You're doing great.  Here's a story I was told about how this thing seems to work, and how it gets passed along...

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